Newsletter July 2009

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Court Limits an Elder’s Rights in Assisted Living

We hope you found our last newsletter of interest. I followed up with the daughter who had trouble enforcing the health care directive in the assisted living facility. She had finally stopped the facility from giving her mom the medication, but only by standing beside her mom when the medication was being offered, and asking her mom (with dementia)to refuse!. She was working with the ombudsman, at our suggestion. It was still a problem. In my opinion, the facility was out of line in refusing to honor the health care directive.

For this month, I wanted to share with you the result of arecent court case about resident’s rights. This involved a 90 year old in a dispute at her facility. How did this get to be a lawsuit?

Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N., B.S.N. Attorney at Law

A recent court case in California may make you think twice before signing that contract at the assisted living community which also provides a unit with higher levels of care. A federal court
recently ruled that a continuing care retirement community (CCRC) can force a resident to move from an independent apartment to another level of care.

Sally Herriot, age 90 lives at a Palo Alto facility which provides independent living, assisted living, and skilled nursing. She lived independently in a spacious apartment with her husband.
After he died, she continued living in the same apartment until returning from a hospital stay. At that time, the facility decided that she had to move to skilled care. Ms. Herriot, her doctor, and her family all objected to this. She had around the clock private aides to help with her needs and she wanted to stay in her larger, more comfortable apartment where she was accustomed to living.

She ended up getting an attorney a filing a lawsuit against the facility. She argued that she was being discriminated against based on her disabilities, because the facility refused to accommodate her having her own aides take care of her. The court ruled that the facility had a legal duty to provide nursing care, and that they could not delegate away the duty to Ms. Herriot’s aides. Ms. Herriot was forced to go where the facility decided she had to be. The case is Herriot v. House (U.S. Dist. Ct., N.D. Cal., No.C 06-6323JF (RS), Jan. 29, 2009).

What does this mean to residents of this kind of continuing care facility? It means that the individual does not have the right to choose to stay in independent or assisted living if the facility decides otherwise. It does not matter what the resident’s doctor thinks. It does not matter if the resident can afford to pay for her own, personal aides. It is totally within the rights of the facility to put the resident where the facility chooses to put her. The irony of this story is that the facility chose to move Mrs. Herriot because they didn’t want her to get hurt in her own apartment. They might have been afraid of getting sued.

Could this mess have been avoided? Perhaps. We do not know if anyone ever tried to mediate the dispute, but we suggest that when things escalate in a disagreement, that mediation should always be suggested. Learn more about mediating of elder disputes at or

That’s it for now. If you have any further questions, comments, or feedback, I would like to hear from you. Just hit reply and send me an email.

Thanks for reading,
Dr. Mikol Davis
Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N, B.S.N, Attorney at Law

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